Super Marital Sex Rule: The super sex marriage is based rn0 on now than later, more on doing than intending. One of the greatest challenges of super marital sex is to attempt to live response while living creatively, acting on our dreams.
Happiness is when the dog dies and the last kid leaves.
HUSBAND AND WIFE
We seem to be waiting for the major chord that ends the symphony the finale, the conclusion, that time when the ceiling is painted, the toilet doesn’t leak anymore, the kids are well behaved, and ft checking account balances. Someday, somehow everything will “ready.” The problem is, that time will never come. Life is truly a way of traveling and not a station at which we arrive. We are forgetting the trip.
We promise that when the kids are in college, we will travel together, but there doesn’t seem to be enough money to do it then. We promise that when we have financial security, we will buy that cottage, but inflation deflates us. We promise that when we have a little more time, we will make love, and we fail to make time] love.
Psychologist Richard Lazarus has researched “life’s little hassles,” and shows that they are actually life itself. We either live with them and enjoy our life, or we mistakenly assume that we can “wait them out” or “plan them away.”
American marriage is in a perpetual state of foreplay, getting ready for later. Anthropologist Dr. Anthony Tofoya writes about our limited cultural orientation, bound by threes (we think that crises happen m threes, talk of the Holy Trinity, knock three time] etc.). I notice that my couples state this phenomenon in “threes, that is, we will make love when 1) the kids are asleep, 2) we are ready for bed, and 3) there is nothing left to do. Never! It is] promise that will not be kept! The triangle will never be complete.
We promise that we will love each other forever, that we m develop together and die together on the same day at the same time knowing full well mat all relationships end and it is only a mattJ of when and how. We must move toward super marital sex not by promises, but by action. We will come to feel as we behave, as ÷ act. Motivation is not something we get; it follows what we do.
The “forever fallacy” causes us to miss the chance to love. Wj will not be together, at least in this world, forever. Life will never that pearl, the pearl of wisdom, perfect on all sides. It is more complex crystal, turning from side to side, showing truth and value in segments. We do not have to live as though there is no tomorrow, but we had better love as though there is only now.
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